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Wanting to be married

Wanting to be married
Jeremy Walker
Jeremy Walker Jeremy is the pastor of Maidenbower Baptist Church in Crawley.
01 November, 2022 3 min read

We all value biblical advice from our elders, the first ones to whom we turn for counsel. Jeremy Walker outlines the kind of answer he might give to a question received at the chapel door.

I would love to be married but there’s no one my age in my church or those I know. Should I visit Christian dating websites?

I am pleased that you want to be married. That isn’t the case for everyone. You shouldn’t feel guilty if you’re not ready, or if God hasn’t given you that desire, but it’s a normal desire for healthy Christians to want to be married (Genesis 2:18).

At the same time, take care that marriage doesn’t become an idol to you, either in itself or as the imagined solution to some other problem: if we are not content with what we have now, we are unlikely to be content with whatever else the Lord may give us. People who complain about being single tend to complain about being married!

I accept that this is a challenge in a smaller church, and among smaller churches. Often there aren’t too many people your own age in one or among several churches. Or perhaps you have grown up with them, and there’s not always a ‘romantic’ attraction.

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